A PRICELESS AND SACRED GIFT
When 20-year-old Reabetswe Khumbane was a student at the University of the Witwatersrand, he visited the campus blood drive to give his regular blood donation. That’s when he came across the SABMR registration tent and learned what it meant to be a bone marrow donor.
“Right away, I knew it was something I had to do,” Reabetswe says. He immediately completed the donor registration process, eager to get his name on the Registry in hopes of saving a life someday. It wouldn’t be long before he got that chance—and took it. I do think we all have a sense of when it’s time to do the right thing. The real question is, how many of us follow through on that feeling? Thank you Reabetswe not just for knowing what that “right thing” was for you, but resolving yourself to actually do it.
While most registered donors never get the call to donate, and the ones that do typically get the call many years after registering, the SABMR phoned Reabetswe within just a few months to notify him that he was a potential match for a young child in need of a bone marrow transplant. He agreed to a round of blood tests, which confirmed he was a perfect match for the child.
Less than one year after registering, Reabetswe completed his donation at Netcare’s Garden City Clinic. His sister and a close friend were by his side throughout the six-hour process. While he was nervous at first, Reabetswe says, he quickly realised “there was absolutely nothing to be afraid of. It was a very straightforward procedure and the SABMR made sure everything was taken care of.” I can speak firsthand about the effort and care that the people at the SABMR put into making both donors’ and patients’ experiences as seamless as possible. The Registry team really does everything they can to make the whole process as easy as they can for everyone involved, because they know how nerve-wracking the transplant process can be for both sides!
Reabetswe says the SABMR staff were “friendly, patient and extremely supportive”, staying by his bedside throughout the donation to ensure he was comfortable and had everything he needed. “It showed me how much the SABMR cares about their donors, not just as a donor but also as a person,” he remembers. Since his donation, Reabetswe says the SABMR team calls often to check in and say hello. We will forever be grateful to you Reabetswe, and it is a privilege to follow your life journey!
Reabetswe says he felt normal almost right away after his donation, despite being a bit tired. He refrained from the gym for a few days per his doctor’s recommendations, but less than a week after his donation, he felt good as new.
When asked how he feels about being a donor, Reabetswe says he is proud and grateful. “Being a donor is something I hold very dear to my heart and will cherish for the rest of my life,” he explains. “One of the mottos in my life is to try to make a difference in the lives of all those that you come across. Being able to improve someone’s quality of life is a priceless and sacred gift.”
Unfortunately, Reabetswe says, many Black South Africans do not register to be bone marrow donors. He believes this is due to a lack of education about bone marrow, misconceptions about what it means to be a donor, as well as a general mistrust of Western medicine. “Historically,” he explains, “procedures such as blood and bone marrow donations have been discouraged due to beliefs that these procedures remove things from the body. There is a misunderstanding that donors are losing a part of themselves. When you are not informed about something, you often tend to come up with your own theories, which leads to misinformation being spread.
Thankfully, Reabetswe believes that misinformation can be remedied through dialogue, so he’s taking every opportunity he can get to share his story with friends and family. He explains, “The Black South African culture is very big on the concepts of Ubuntu and community building, and if we can explain the lifesaving potential that registering has for people in our community, that will help motivate people to sign up.”
Reabetswe says that, unlike older generations, young Black South Africans are very open-minded and would likely register if they knew how important it was. “Things are changing and they have been for a while,” he explains. “You are seeing a lot of younger Black South Africans in spaces and occupations which the older generation are not seen in. You just need to look at the number of young Black South Africans who are becoming regular blood donors to see the change in mentality.”
“By increasing the number of Black South Africans who register, we can increase the potential to help Black patients desperately in need,” Reabetswe says.Reabetswe, my friend, you are right. The SABMR is specifically seeking donors of colour between the ages of 16 and 45. That’s because donors are usually found within the patient’s ethnic group, and because Black South Africans make up a majority of the South African demographic, it’s of critical importance that the Registry is reflective of that so that all patients in need have an equal shot at finding a donor. Because without enough people of colour registered, Black and Coloured South Africans may not find a match in time—and may not survive.
As umXhosa would say, “UMZINGISI AKANASHWA”. That means “HE WHO PERSEVERES HAS NO MISFORTUNE.” With the help of amazing donors like Reabetswe, we will keep working to save the lives of patients in need by matching them with their lifesaving donors. And that starts with sharing stories like these–and raising awareness about the need for ethnically diverse donors.
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